Ansari dispensing the spoonfuls of sugar that help it go down. Klinenberg, presumably, supplying the medicine - graphs, charts, statistics and the like - and Mr. The result is a sprightly, easygoing hybrid of fact, observation, advice and comedy, with Mr.

Better still, he has a knack for getting people to talk to him and a sense of what to do to fill out a book that could easily have felt too thin or anemic. He’s old enough to remember what life was like in the era before cellphones, yet young enough to understand the point of Snapchat, a disappearing-image app beloved by the young and only vaguely understood by everyone else. Ansari, who is 32 and now enjoys a healthy textual relationship with a steady girlfriend, might not be the first person who springs to mind when it comes to dispensing romantic advice. for authors to call breasts “boobs”?) How likely are you to introduce someone you met on Tinder to your parents? Why do Japanese men avoid women but go to bed with the Tenga, “a single-use silicone egg” that they “fill with lubricant and masturbate inside?” What is it with men, anyway? for women to send photos of their breasts to men they barely know? (Why is it O.K. What is texting doing to our lives? What has sexting done to Anthony Weiner’s life? Why is it O.K. Ansari, a stand-up comedian best known for playing Tom Haverford, a hopeless Lothario and jauntily deluded entrepreneur, on the late, great television show “Parks and Recreation.” He decided to write it after he brought up the Tanya debacle in a comedy routine and got to thinking, he says, about the universality of his experience, about “how and why the whole culture of finding love and a mate has radically changed” in the modern era. “I should have typed ‘Hey’ with two y’s, not just one!” Later: “Did Tanya’s phone fall into a river/trash compactor/volcano? Did Tanya fall into a river/trash compactor/volcano? Oh no, Tanya has died.” (Oh no, in fact - Tanya just doesn’t feel like answering.) Once, he writes in his new book, “Modern Romance,” a would-be girlfriend’s failure to respond to his effortfully insouciant text sent him spinning helplessly into a “tornado of panic and hurt and anger.” He knows how unpleasant it is to stare impotently at a screen waiting for a message that never arrives, how undignified it is to apply a French deconstructionist’s fervor to the analysis of an illiterate string of unpunctuated words. text from a crush whose only communication after three days of silence reads, in its entirety, “wsup.”Īziz Ansari feels your pain. You think you’re a reasonable person suddenly, you’re obsessing over how to respond properly to a 2 a.m.

One minute, it’s a blameless communication device the next, it’s a toxic incubator of second-guessing and self-loathing. Everyone with a cellphone and a romantic life knows how swiftly and viciously the phone can turn against you.

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